Feb 11, 2026 at 6:21 AM Had a horrible sudden breakup with my gf after she got drunk again and was a mean drunk again (demons inside her come out). Told her last time there will be no more chances, she said she can drink moderately, promised. Happened again. Broke up with her, she refused to leave, started causing chaos in the house, I called the cops, she started hitting me, kicked her out, she almost knocked the doors down, cops came, took her. Constant fights even without alcohol, but god d--- all I see now is the good times. I am a weak man and I consider getting in touch with her and try to fix things. I am torn. This is hard.
Feb 11, 2026 at 8:08 AM I’m sorry but it’s not worth it dude. I don’t care what good times you had with her, how pretty she is, how good the p---- is, etc. She’s never going to actually fix her alcoholism if you keep going back to her. It’ll just keep getting worse because she’ll see that you keep coming back to her no matter how horrible she is. She needs to deal with the consequences of what she’s doing and maybe even hit rock bottom to truly see the error of her ways and finally get help for her addiction. She has to truly wanna get better for HERSELF, not for you. If she is only getting better for you it’ll never work. You can’t fix her.
Feb 11, 2026 at 8:20 AM Agree. It’s an endless cycle. And people wonder why I’m single. No h---, but Kim just didn’t hit the spot like my dildo
Feb 11, 2026 at 10:28 AM Definitely avoid dude toxic relationship will end up hurting your mental health Trust me I've been there. Do you have children with her?
Feb 11, 2026 at 11:31 AM Still not nice but at least that makes it easier. Honestly bro I know it's difficult to do but force yourself to k--- all ties. Also try not to hit the booze yourself to try and "heal" cos it doesn't work. Hope it works out for you bro
Feb 11, 2026 at 12:32 PM I agree that she has to want it, and want it bad. Consequences don't always carry power. If she's hanging on to it saying she can do it responsibly, then it sounds like she's not willing to give it up. It's really hard to get sober and make it stick; it usually takes years, though it's different for everyone. Relapse is just a part of that process. But I learned the hard way you can't stay with someone no matter how good the good stuff is if you're waiting for them to change and be different. She is who she is.
Feb 11, 2026 at 12:49 PM You can do it man. One of my X I was with for 4 years she used to try her hardest to make me hit her, never did but this b---- used to spit in my face, punch, kick, anything to try make me lose my s---. Was hard at first but I managed to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Feb 11, 2026 at 5:32 PM Have you ever tried guided meditation? It can stop the mind racing and give more mental clarity which makes emotions and urges less strong. Plus, when you do feel the urges you can replace it with something better. When you feel the urge, train yourself to immediately do meditation or work out or something else to improve yourself and your mood. It might take a while but you can replace the mind racing habit with a better habit after a while. Of course, you aren’t going to be able to get rid of the emotions immediately. It’s okay to let yourself feel them sometimes as long as you don’t give into them and realize that they will eventually pass. Take this time to care for yourself instead of caring for her. You have to build the self-worth to realize that you deserve much better than someone who treats you so horribly.
Feb 12, 2026 at 2:16 AM I cannot still my mind to meditate now. I know it would be good, but I'm not there. "You have to build the self-worth to realize that you deserve much better than someone who treats you so horribly." I need to remember this. I cant believe I'm relating to Love The Way You Lie. "When its going good its going great"
Feb 12, 2026 at 3:16 AM Don’t do it bro, I tried to make it work way longer than I should have with my ex and when we broke up last year I was heartbroken but now I see how much better off I am for it. It’s not easy and nothing is gonna help make it easier, u just gotta man up, push through, and force yourself not to reach out to her. Deal with the emotions as they come but remind yourself a year from now you’re gonna be much happier and barely thinking about her at all, maybe even with someone new who treats you better.
Feb 12, 2026 at 4:53 AM Yes, please remember that. Put it as a note in your phone if you have to. Having high self-worth in this life is important and can stop you from being in situations like this in the first place. Once you build high self-worth there’s simply a lot of things you just won’t tolerate anymore
