Nov 27, 2020

I agree with some of this post but not your first one at all. I think @deluxe wife is much closer to the truth.

The stigma that men need to “man up” and suppress their emotions at the expense of mental health definitely does come from both men and women, and because of that I think men often feel even more embarrassed to be dealing with emotional abuse (though it can be physical too ofc) coming from women and bottle it up even further.

However, I don’t think you can connect that to women having careers “at the expense of a relationship.” Men have been doing that for decades. A woman doesn’t need to focus on their relationship or their career any more than a man does. Each individual person regardless of gender can decide they want to focus on a career or a relationship or whatever, it’s their life. Obviously if either person in a relationship doesn’t tend to it and focuses more on work it’s more likely to be a bad one, but if it’s not working it’s on both of them to talk about it and decide if they want to meet in the middle to make it work. And if it’s not working either of them can choose to leave at any time (which is always hard of course).

I’m sorry to hear about those suicides but blaming women for that is some incel mindset. If the women weren’t happy in the relationship then they don’t have any obligation to stay in it because the other person is happy. Like @deluxe wife and I were saying, this is where the sigma comes into play with mental health...because most men of our generation and earlier were taught to bottle up our emotions which can, in worst case scenario, lead to suicide like in these situations. There seems to be less stigma with men and mental health with the Zoomers so I’m hopeful this is changing.

Basically, Men’s issues do not have to focused on at the expensive of women’s issues. We have a lot of work to do in both areas, and with men we need to continue to encourage men to talk about it and seek help and to take your male friends seriously if they open up about about being abused in any way by a woman.

 

Jul 23, 2020

Couldn't agree more. I think the concept of a "soulmate" or even love itself has been greatly romanticized by movies, music, and tv.

 

Jul 23, 2020

Most men should avoid marriage. All risk while women only stand to benefit.

 

Jul 21, 2020

This.

In the light of this I think we shouldn't (have to) feel 'ashamed' or guilty for having s-----y parents or family members. Its not your fault and others shouldn't make you feel that way either.

 

Jul 21, 2020

Social media brings more bad than good

Glad I dont use it

 

Jul 20, 2020

Damnn only got like 3 kinds or so

Agree. Making cash is good but u can enjoy it for only so long. Doing something that makes u happy (and pays enough) will eventually make you happier.

 

Jul 31, 2020

I agree with you to an extent about people who, like, only do resort vacations and never go out of their comfort zone and spend half the time working anyway. And I hate it when people's entire personality is "traveling."

But on the flipside, I could paint people who don't like to travel as boring because they're too cowardly to explore somewhere new. You have an extremely cynical view about going to new places and to me that says you're not one to try new things. My question for you is: what type of traveling have you done and how much traveling have you done in general?

Also, I could drive 20 min north to some boring Atlanta suburb and still learn something new.

I like my life too—and vacations and traveling are a part of my life. I don't think you should live for any one, single thing (the only real exception to this is if you have kids, cuz duh). If you live your life solely for vacation or solely for work or solely for your wife/husband, there's going to be massive amounts of time in your life where you're unhappy.

 

Jul 24, 2020

Nah I think people definitely have types, but it's more subconscious than anything...not that you can't notice it (esp after the fact). And that doesn't mean you have to date a certain type, just that you tend to fall for a certain type.

 

Jul 24, 2020

Co f---ing sign

 

Jul 23, 2020

If divorce happens a woman often leaves unscathed. Meanwhile a man is often financially r---d. Having to give her cash, assets, and more often than not pay for her attorney. It’s essentially legalized pillaging.

I just don’t think the 50/50 chance of a divorce and all the bs that comes with it is worth it for most men.

Maybe if you get a prenup but women never wanna sign those. I wonder why?

 

Jul 20, 2020

This, especially when it comes to doctors. Some of the shittiest people I've encountered in my life were doctors.